7 May 2020 Afternoon
Today Winifred May Fry is being laid to rest alongside Donald after a parting of 43 years. The short service took place at Western Cemetery in Ely and was carried out by the Reverend Michael John, the vicar from St Catwgs Church in Pentyrch. [Winifred] May spent the best part of the last 25 years or so in Pentrych, close to her daughters and grandchildren.
It is a sad fact of the times that only ten people were able to witness May being laid to rest on this warm spring day. We were fortunate to have the Reverend Michael John to take the service. He brought the perfect balance of reverence and intimacy to the occasion. He offered words and prayers of consolation and gave a reading of the 23rd Psalm, ‘The Lord’s my Shepherd. The Reverend John invited one of the family to deliver a eulogy for Mother:
Well Mother, we have gathered today not to say goodbye but to witness your reunion with Dad (Donald). We are sad, but happy that you are now at peace.
And we are not losing you. Each and everyone of your children, grandchildren and great grandchildren carry with them a part of you. You are all around and among us. There is even a part of you in Spain
More importantly each of us carries memories of your personality, that will help us with our journey through life. Your patience, your tolerance, your generosity, your thoughtfulness towards and for others was a mark not just of your Christian commitment but of a truly caring approach to life.
In the treasured tin of documents and mementos you left behind were some revealing pieces of writing. The one that stands out was for a salvation army talk but was essentially a love letter replying to one from father during his final days.
You had thought long and hard about what you wanted to say; four and a half years to be exact. It was about love: Love of nature, first love, real love, the love for your children and love in later life.
The struggle that lay behind committing to this piece of writing was a brave and beautiful coming to terms with the loss of Dad and achieving peace with the world in his absence. They are very special words.
We thank you Mum for all the thoughtful love and the shining example of your generosity of spirit. It is now your time to rest. Love and kisses and more from all your family and friends.
Following the euology, Reverend John, picked up on the theme of love to deliver a blessing. One of Mum’s favourite ‘Sally Army’ hymns was then played with even the birds joining in with their chorus. Following this Michael John enacted Mother’s commendation, committal and promise of eternal rest.
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